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Schaquana Spears, Shanavia Miller And The Dangerous Precedent Of Non-Punishment For Parental Domestic Violence

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Update, no charges for Schaquana Spears not that there was much hope to start with news anchors recording area prosecutor’s blatantly biased view on what transpired from the very beginning…Child services at least somewhat smarter than Louisiana’s graying prosecutor noting they did see fit to remove the 13 year old placing him with a relative, yet what about her other 5 kids, particular attention given to her 12 year old who had lacerations that broke skin? You’re just going to leave him there, his 10 year old brother too; he escaped with a scratch on his hand this round, what about next time both DA and child services? Isn’t it basic procedure to remove all children when investigating potential abuse; charges not pursued doesn’t mean no evidence of abuse since child services apparently had solid grounds to remove their 13 year old brother, state mounting no objection. Why not relocate with relatives, into foster care, at minimum, the other 2 children she hit, regardless stated reasons why referencing physical evidence? Where are the mandated parenting classes giving this woman more, obviously much needed tools to manage her kids, regular CPS checks ensuring hers remains a safe home for her younger children as they age, community supports to local Boys and Girls Club, Big Brothers Big Sisters, places her older children can go while she works and be supervised, engaged, mentored? Maybe someone should beat you with that same RCA cord, based on the decision you made, until you have lacerations on both your arms, linear marks on your legs shoulder, back and stomach, sure to break skin on one of your arms like the 12 year old you sent back there DA Moore, child services caseworker who had this come across your desk, see if it constitutes abuse to you then… But Ms. Spears is just a mother, a mother who should be put up for mother of the year awards not labeled the bad guy, a criminal, all that legal common knowledge going out the window, DA’s choices according to readers, commenters deemed reasonable when cataloging specific facts denoting Spears’ family situation; children’s father not in the picture because he is serving time in prison, her desire to keep them from walking the same path, making the same wrong choices. Media helping that trope right along, doing it again: watering down, sanitizing what Spears did to fit national perceptions of its acceptability; anchor saying she swatted her kids for what they did refusing to see them in jail or dead. Except A- her children aren’t flies, insects you swat away, B- she wasn’t using a flyswatter, her open hand when she hit them, nor were they spanked exclusively on the buttocks with a belt indicative of punishment, steep punishment related to burglary. What she did carries all the markers of learning her kids took something from a lady’s home, herding them to their house and, moment doors were closed, ranting, raving, charging through her house looking for anything to hit them with, locating that infamous RCA cord, later the belt, hitting them indiscriminately wherever she could reach; surprising there weren’t marks on their faces. Schaquana Spears you are “the bad guy” because what you thought discipline crosses the line to abuse; your approach to handling your kids, instilling right from wrong only sets them up to act out more….Concurrently for all we know, upon learning the father was in prison, they miss him, they did this to go see him, they want to stay with him, even in jail because, for whatever reason, they don’t like mom; stupid from our point of but exactly how a child’s mind works. What do we want to bet the other strong, strong likelihood in their house is that every time they didn’t clean their room, fought with their siblings, got in minor trouble at school, did poorly on a test, despite her assertions they were in gifted programs, on honor roll; facts that are perplexingly incongruent with their breaking and entering, adding more suspicions other things are going on here, they got differing variations on ‘do you wanna end up just like your daddy, locked up just like your daddy, in jail/prison like your daddy?’ Every time she saw a personality trait reminding her of their father same scenario, they get lectured at for being who they are, put down for traits they’re still learning to hone through the difficulty of adolescence, hearing that for years. Twice as impactful because it came from mom, reaching their spirit, souls because it’s mom disparaging their dad to their faces, telling them not to be like him in any way, shape or form not just his mistakes, bad decisions; divorced parents advised never to badmouth the children’s non-custodial parent to them, infinitely more important here. Leaving the child’s mindset: well if that’s what mommy thinks I am/where I’ll end up, might as well…Further elaborating on previous paragraph statements her approach to discipline will cause more, not less, acting out; we know, from the same school research, constant harsher punishment, scrutiny, harassment and degrading by school officials throughout every level, creates fear, fear of the minor infraction, translating into running from cops later in life, fearing those same minor infractions, traffic tickets, child support, loose cigarettes. Carrying that over, how high are chances spankings, let’s call them what they are, beatings like the ones documented in police reporting are regular in Spears’ home causing fear of minor infractions, not so minor infractions; child’s mindset being if I’m going to get hit for every tiny thing I do wrong, might as well know what I’m getting hit for, be hit for something I want since it doesn’t seem to matter either way. Assuming she’s right about her children’s academics, this is the first serious thing they’ve done beyond breaking house rules, did something happen to 1, all 3 of them; were they beaten up, molested, wrongly accused of stealing reviving our recurring theme: of, you’re going to accuse me, I might as well do it….We don’t know and neither does Schaquana Spears. Problem neither does she care; not cognizant enough, possessing the wherewithal to conclude anything on that list could be part of the problem… Shanavia Miller another in a long line of social media shaming parents alerting us to just how bad America’s collective parenting is becoming, who think it is perfectly ok to shame, humiliate and abuse their children on the internet, who have zero qualms about making their business public to prove they are a bad ass parent, they got this, show all their friends what happened to their kid when they ‘defy’ mom or dad. Striking, in every one of these is, it’s what you don’t hear or see in the video, references not made to prior conversations on the topic at hand, whether it was fair distribution of chores in relation to laptop shooting dad, recognition of what his daughter does do at home. There’s woefully lacking any indication there will be a rational, instructive conversation on what not to post on social media and key, why, sexuality, safe sex, whether discussing One Direction ticket mom or Miller’s 16 year old daughter’s posting pictures, possible sexual activity, that there will ever be a rational, calm conversation about subjects presented in said YouTube, Facebook films. Instead what we do hear is a series of easily discernable ignorant, uneducated statements you’d be more apt to hear from a 16 year old than her parent, Spears’ 13, 12 and 10 year old boys, not their mother… Instead of primary focus being her daughter, what she’s missing at home causing her to do this, what’s really going on in her head when posting that type of picture, what will be done to mitigate damage caused by it, it’s all about the parent; from almost the very beginning it’s about you wanna embarrass me on TV, on social media, you forget I know motherfuckers proving her concern is not her daughters online reputation, possible solicitation from older men, predators based on what she put up, future ability to get into college, her boss, her school finding out, it’s about her and who she knows, who will think less of her because of what her daughter did… We will do anything but send a message to parents if you do this, it’s abuse for which you will be prosecuted; standard for all extreme and more traditional methods, hot saucing for lying, swearing, ass whopings going a step further and cravenly tacking it up on social media oblivious to you might be called a child abuser, so convinced of their own rightness, shocked they could under basic penal code statutes, stretching back decades, none of the new ‘outlawing spanking nonsense’ wind up in jail. Encouragement to do it but keep it behind closed doors is not only sick, wrong, twisted, it will not protect you from the law if you are guilty of abusing our future not just yours.Read More