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Dear Alabama About Roy Moore: Of Course It Took Women 40 Years To Come Forward

Current Trends by Natasha Sapp

He was banned from the local mall, a community WMCA, twice ousted from his judgeship for an inability to follow the constitution; what was he doing running for the United States senate even before we knew he was a bible thumping, god squad pedophiliac?…We’ve never treated women well in this country, hell anywhere across the globe, spanning the planet; why should now be any different? So is it any significant surprise these women didn’t come forward before now in a society determined not to believe them, shame anyone who dares speak up and say X happened to me, I too experience Y, exactly what happened to them. Revealing things deeply personal and traumatic in a public venue for the betterment of your fellow citizens only to be called liar not singularly by your abuser, harasser, attempted rapist but your community, the country as well, to have your history of failed marriages, financial troubles, sexual partners, weekly presence at a bar for girls night (being single and unattached) bought up as reasons you shouldn’t be believed, taken seriously, asked well what did you do, did you flirt, when regardless of flirting no still means no, period. But women who come forward are up to something nefarious, a fake news conspiracy, sure…Remembering most of his accusers were children/teens at the time, children who even at this late stage, budding on adulthood, have an uncanny ability to make things their fault whether they feasibly are or not; sexual abuse, assault victims doubly, triply prone to thinking it’s their fault if they were too shocked to say no, are unsure if they clearly said no. Teens chronologically 18, legally an adult but psychologically still very much a kid; more importantly kids, just turned adults not looking to date, get into a relationship, be kissed, fondled, have sex, certainly not interested in the attention of an older man: case in point 22 year old Becky Gray. It’s Bill Cosby all over again someone of fame, notoriety, power using those things to prey on women and girls; only this time adding in the worst elements of small town, Barney Fife America. A place where justice is doled out by a city, county sheriff, series of them and based on whether you’re liked or not in the community, seen as good people or not, their collective interpretations of your community standing. Far less on fact, tangible evidence, inconvenient corroborating witness statements, conflicting statements designed to discredit, shame the victim in the eyes of the community. A place doing its best to imitate, too often forgotten fictitious, Mayberry anchored in so called ‘good Christian values;’ who would doubtlessly agree with the backwards school dress code policies, various nationwide clothing bans on thong underwear and deemed ‘see through’ clothing worn in public regardless of the visual reality you can’t see anything untoward/indecent. People conditioned to think baggy pants are immoral and ‘slutty,’ ‘easy,’ ‘loose’ women running around like ‘that’ deserve what they get. Roy Moore used his standing as an attorney on his youngest victim Leigh Corfman and her mother offering to sit with her while Corfman’s mother went into custody proceedings stating she didn’t want her daughter to hear ‘all that; spending the time chatting her up, getting her phone number to days later take her to his wooded cabin where he undressed her and himself touching her through her underwear and manipulating her hand to touch him. He used his age and the popular gathering hub that was Gadsden’s new mall, combined with the strangely low age of consent (16) to troll for teen girls he wanted to date, flattering them with the attention he gave them, soliciting and receiving their phone numbers; teens like Gloria Thacker Deason, Kelly Harrison Thorp. No doubt playing on their desire for romance coupled with making them feel grown up, mature; only troubled later as they grew older and understood how abnormal was he did really was. Undaunted by continued rebuffs, he used his profession to call the local high school and have one teen he was interested in taken from trig class (trigonometry, that’s math), brought to the phone in order to ask her out. Gena Richardson recalling to this day nervously thinking it might be her dad, utterly shocked at who was actually on the other end of the phone, feeling like all eyes were on her, saying yes to a date because she didn’t know what else to do; fitting a pattern of others who agreed to stop his harassment, only to be forcibly kissed and have to tell him her curfew was right now prevent anything else from happening. He used both his job as district attorney and guest speakership in a high school history classroom talking about the law, the justice system to pick up a 17 year old Debbie Wesson Gibson; and, when we say pick up we mean ask out on a date. He bluntly told his 5th victim, coming forward to cameras in a press conference, she was just a child and he was the district attorney of the county before dumping her out of his car into the cold; unsuccessfully able to physically subdue her into giving him oral sex initiated post offering her a ride home from the diner where she worked because her boyfriend hadn’t shown, as he usually did. Troubling isn’t just the allegations leveled against Roy Moore, it’s his response to them; confronted with what women said he did to them as minors, while working at his law office again he then used local culture to deny, deflect, lastly defend his actions…Mirroring Cosby, classic predator behavior Moore knew exactly what he was doing when he met Leigh Corfman around the corner from her house on a dark, cold night letting her think they were going to the movie, waiting until the second time he ran said routine to ‘seduce’ her, her word describing the abuse in a later Today Show interview. He knew what he was doing repeatedly making himself a presence at the diner waiting for an opening to get a girl, the girl he’s had his eye on alone; an opening materialized that cold night exiting said diner able to freely offer Beverly Young-Nelson a ride when her boyfriend was late picking her up. He calculatingly knew precisely what he was doing parking his car in back between the dumpster and the building where passing people, cars couldn’t see, locking the car doors so she couldn’t get out; panicking when he began trying to remove her shirt, fondle her breasts then push her head toward his crotch. Yes the age of consent in Alabama then and today is 16, unsettling as we may find it, it’s the law; however, forcing/manipulating someone into having sex, attempting to do is called rape/attempted rape and is still against the law. Beverly Young-Nelson did not consent, wanted no part of a sexual encounter with Moore, let alone participating in oral sex; and made that clear in her physical efforts to fight him off, still making it a crime independent Alabama’s views on who is old enough to consent. Smoothly coercing Gena Richardson into his car prior to giving her the, unexpected, paramount unwanted, ‘forceful kiss’ that left her scared (making his actions sexual assault) wasn’t a happy accident for him, but the disgusting ease of a practiced predator who had done this so many times it was routine….Again he knew exactly what he was doing, choosing to flirt with, ask out on a date while married himself, then grope, a recently divorced, implied emotionally fragile, woman necessitated into signing over custody of her son to her mother; waiting for her mother to leave the room, actively maneuvering things so she left first leaving him just enough alone time with his unsuspecting, understandably distracted, possibly distraught, victim…Nor did these women stay absolutely silent for 40 years, not that it wouldn’t be standard psychology if they did, because it would fit to a T profiles of sexual violence, molestation sufferers; many sexual abuse victims/survivors, sexual assault, rape victims/survivors take years to come forward, come to terms with it enough to speak openly about what they endured. However every teen case told friends or relatives sometime between when it happened and present day, most mere days later; ready to speak they tell people they trust, persons in their life that make them feel safe, why they told who they did…. friends recall bruises all over Beverly Young-Nelson’s neck following her attack, 2 years later informing her younger sister. Like many child victims she feared telling those around her not wanting Moore to harm her, potentially her family citing his violent temper; Richardson, similar to siblings who endure sexual abuse believing they are protecting the other(s), thought she was the only one he had done this to, becoming physically ill years later as a mother and grandmother realizing she was just a notch on his pedophile, child abusing belt… Hearing his victims tell their stories, the 2 agreeing to television interviews, you expediently conclude these were girls who had no idea what was going on, what was going to happen until it was happening and too late. Listening to Leigh Corfman’s Today interview cements in your mind her Washington Post statements: I wanted it over with — I wanted out,” she remembers thinking. “Please just get this over with. Whatever this is, just get it over”…‘She remembers thinking, “I don’t want to do this” and “I need to get out of here.” She says that she got dressed and asked Moore to take her home, and that he did.’ She sounds like exactly what she is a child/teen victim of pedophile grooming and culminating abuse; combining victims’ innate sense such abuse, violence is there fault is how it intertwines catastrophically with small town values, small town rearing it’s ugliest head again via ingrained sentiments echoed in Corfman’s extended interviews. Telling both the Post and Today’s Savannah Guthrie she previously thought of confronting Moore on multiple occasions almost did during the early 2000’s when he was up for Alabama chief justice, but decided against it based on her small children still in school, her less than perfect/idyllic life, 3 divorces and spotty financial record. Elaborated on during that same interview she was a single parent, sitting her kids down, in elementary and Jr. High at the time, terrified they would be ostracized from their respective social groups; thus deciding against it. Sounds an awful lot like another accuser of another prominent political candidate, it echoes Natasha Stoynoff’s encounter with businessman turned presidential candidate Donald Trump advised by friends and ultimately choosing not to let him win, ruin her career, by filing charges initiating a public legal confrontation. Sad realities that don’t make these 2 women’s experiences, important distinction, not fabricated stories, any less true; Beverly Young-Nelson said in her press conference she probably would have taken what Roy Moore did to her to her grave if not for the courage of other women affected to speak first. CNN revealing in a profile on Moore’s wife Kayla maiden name Kiser was in the same graduating class as, wait for it, Beverly Young now Young-Nelson; gee I wonder the other half of what closed her mouth for a good 30 of those 40 years? Who else among his known victims, ones who have yet to come forward, never will stayed silent after adulthood, stay silent did so/do so currently because they have relatives who are friends with the Moore’s, the Moore siblings from years ago? And don’t want to be the subject of town gossip, suddenly known singularly as the person who accused Roy Moore of the unthinkable, losing what little support system they have in terms of friends, emergency babysitters for their kids, people to watch their house while they go out of town for work, to handle a family emergency? Victims who want to remain living in Gadsden, where they grew up, despite everything find it a good place to raise their kids; more simplistically, want to go to the grocery store, gas station, continue working, attending church, community functions without being gawked at, bombarded with questions, anger, hate, run out of town by vandalism, violence, harassment because they told the truth about what he did to them, a truth no locals weren’t ready to accept? What will be the social fallout, repercussions for people coming forward who right now live in Gadsden, have family in Gadsden; will they find themselves forced to move, to keep a job, extract their children from torment at school, their grandchildren, get a loan, all things effected in a small town when you’re part of a scandal like Roy Moore’s, whether you did anything wrong or not. Will it be a case of desiring to move to regain the peace and quiet they once had in this previously sleepy Alabama town, escape character assassinations from people they once called friend asking how they could do such a thing to him, a good Christian man, to them his supporter, their parents, siblings cousins; saying they’re only doing it for money, attention, because they are mentally unwell, not because it’s 100% true. No, no these women did it for nothing other than spitefully ending his political career; not because his political career, which is supposed to be an act of public service, should end, not the least of which for the plausibility of the accusations against him piled atop abysmal policies he fully intends to bring to the United States senate…Neither is Roy Moore the first holder of public office, hopeful public office holder wanna-be marred in some sort of sexual impropriety scandal, believable ones derailing campaigns, spelling resignations; years before Bill Clinton, years closer to the time frame Roy Moore was doing inappropriate things to young girls there was Gary Hart. Where the mere allegation had him suspending his campaign before the picture emerged of a woman, not his wife, perched on his lap in what looks like an intimate weekend getaway not a publicity photo where some random person jumped on his lap exclusively for the picture. Arguably most famous instance, known in every corner across the country, former president Bill Clinton; difference is Bill Clinton has been litigated to the nth degree, many of Clinton’s accusers were not credible, provable to the standard merited in a court of law…There really is no truly questionable narrative surrounding daughter Chelsea’s parentage; like the Clinton murder rap sheet housing victims of plane crashes, heart attacks, self-inflicted suicides and a handful of persons still very much alive when conspiracy theory publications said they were dead. Difference is we didn’t know what we know now when we first elected him to office in 1992; Pula Jones’ lawsuit didn’t come until 1994, concluded by summary judgement against Jones in ’98, Kathleen Willey stated her groping and forced fondling of his genitals didn’t take place until 1993 reported also in’98, 2 years after his reelection to a second term. Willey who went on to write a book published in 2007 alleging the Clinton’s hired someone to kill her cat, then her husband, graduating to full tin foil hat conspiracy level non-sense. Analysts too have a point saying that comparing Bill Clinton and Bill Cosby, Bill Clinton and Donald Trump, currently Bill Clinton and Roy Moore is false equivalency; fundamentally because, directly contrasting Trump surrogate Rudy Giuliani’s rehashing and re-characterization, Monica Lewinsky never accused him of rape rather admitting a consensual relationship. The thing they could legally prove approaching beyond a reasonable doubt was Bill Clinton lying under oath about a consensual blow job given by a well of age woman. Difference is most, most media nicknamed ‘sex scandals’ involving political figures, waiting in the wings political wannabe’s didn’t/don’t involve pedophilia, the systematic sexual abuse, exploitation of children and underage persons…We’re being told now about what Roy Moore has credibly said to have done to 9 people, 9 people he’s impacted horribly; not because he prosecuted them for reasonably thought guilty wrongdoing as a prosecutor, even was overzealous in the pursuit of a suspected criminal he thought was ‘his man’ and got it wholly wrong locking an innocent person away. Not because he harshly sentenced someone who came before him as a judge, even under his extreme religious beliefs deviating from the constitution; but, because of his proclivity for ‘dating’ teen girls. Trolling the local mall, YMCA, ballgames complete with cheerleaders, high school dances, lurking outside public bathrooms to the point female workers were avoiding him, outright hiding from him, complaining to managers, drawing straws to see who would have to go down to the courthouse to turn in store receipts (described as a dreaded experience for older teen managers), earning him 2 bans from the first places listed and putting local police on watch alert for games. Hounding and badgering them until they gave up their phone numbers or said yes to going out with him only to forcibly kiss them in a way that frightened them. Playing on his ‘wholesome’ nature to gain a parent’s trust while they handle a custody matter spending the intervening time priming her for the abuse he was already planning to inflict; on eagle-eyed alert for opportunities to, let’s call it what it is, assault, abuse engage in active predation. Like seeing the teen at the diner walk out end of shift and her boyfriend be late giving her a ride, garnering trust because he’s the district attorney; only to be groped, have your shirt nearly ripped off and extensive bruises on your neck, because you dared fight having your head shoved into his crotch. Eventuality: giving him oral sex, except he gave up and dumped you on the cold pavement and rode off into the night. Why would we, citizens of Alabama or elsewhere across the country, want to send him to congress to continue chasing interns, groping female staff and quite possibly answer more allegations as they come forward; instead of focusing on national policies that can help Alabama, taking the people of Alabama’s issues to Washington to be heard?…Truth is Roy Moore had problems beyond running as the family values candidate from the beginning of his senate bid, even if his defiance over the 10 commandments display in his courtroom or his vow to put an identical monument in the courthouse lobby was defensible to his electorate; as was his stance on gay marriage, refusal to inforce it, orders to his district clerks and judges not to, could have pushed him over the edge in terms of winning…There were and are countless red flags Moore was not who he purported himself to be or a good prospect for the job he was essentially applying to, announcing, going ahead with his candidacy. From the outset he flunked knowledge of fundamental issues that would have disqualified him running in a state house or senate race on the basis of incompetence; Salon.com noting he came into his bid not knowing what DACA was, dido right to work laws. So how would he help his state navigate critical issues handling their immigrant populations, craft decisions either shoring up unions or continuing right to work policies because they are working for your state, never mind showing up to the United States senate having anything to contribute to policy conversations effecting the whole country, areas drastically more impacted by those 2 issues alone. Prompting the question what additional issues specific to Alabama, adjacent state, regional designation known as the south doesn’t he know about? Further he suddenly believes the NFL national anthem protests are against the law direct contradiction to the constitution, having nothing to do with his stated biblical views; a giant indicator he has no intention of following the constitution in any circumstance rather the bible combined with his gut intuition, making him dangerous as a government public servant designated law maker…Next were his recorded comments on race, how he referred to other nationalities, the fact it reverberates like it’s from 100 years in the past referring to American Indians reds and Asians as yellows; granted he did so shrouded in the context of division, how bad it is for our country, but that remains no excuse. Alabama like the rest of the collective south spending years trying to erase its racist persona, or was that just during the Obama years? Moore has dug himself deeper in the racism hole taking huge sums of money, half a million dollars over the last decade plus, from an extremist pro-secessionist group and founder who calls for the ‘more Christian south’ to secede plus wanting to start his own Anglo-Celtic elite state; perhaps having graduated from law school and aspiring to a U.S. senate seat he might want to show them the supreme court case Texas V. White making secession illegal instead of pocketing money from them. Roy Moore, close to his flagrant race bating, bigotry doesn’t stop talking about religious freedom apparently only believing it’s for the ‘constantly oppressed Christian’ referencing both his comments about Islam and his reaction to Keith Ellison, who generated right wing scandal of the highest order when he took his oath of office hand on a Koran; taking it a step further saying Ellison shouldn’t be permitted to serve because he’s a Muslim and in Moore’s experience ‘the only thing he understands about Muslims is spelled 9/11. Despite the reality there is no requirement you be sworn into public office on a bible, or religious book for that matter, you could be sworn in on a copy of Sports Illustrated if you so desired; knowledge that should fall under things we learned watching iconic political classic The West Wing. But before we get to that there seems to be a need to review other fundamental basics about American government, the founding of this country and pivotal mandates to hold office; first and foremost that there is no religious test involved whether holding the highest office or the lowest, junctures in between…. Attractively popular as his positions on sexuality and social issues may be, worth weighing carefully for the citizens casting ballots in Alabama is results garnered in North Carolina’s bathroom bill; something Moore would surely throw his weight behind from Washington, push for on a national level rehashing DOMA (the defense of marriage act), a constitutional amendment defining marriage. Calculating vast quantities of revenue that fled the state, businesses that refused to go ahead with developments there, singers, entertainers who boycotted the state, canceled upcoming concerts exc. there, relocation of all basketball; an immeasurable block of income for the state clearly not worth risking. Mirroring effects in any state also considering bathroom bill legislation Mississippi and Georgia to name 2; Georgia particularly poised to be hit hard called the Hollywood of the south, if they had gone through with their religious liberty bill holding bathroom provisions forcing persons to use the restrooms, locker rooms, fitting rooms corresponding to the gender on their birth certificate. Alabama already scorned nationally for the LGBT phobic reaction to a gay character in the Beauty and the Beast remake; at least one drive-in there refusing to show the movie on those grounds. Expanding upon reporters remarking about just how out of step he is with most Alabama citizens/voters, true they may not be big fans of homosexuality but don’t think the entirety of America is evil because of it or agree that legalizing gay marriage, permitting homosexual persons to marry like anyone else, be a complete part of society is worse than slavery the way he does; exercising a modicum of common sense it’s hard to see the Yellowhammer state going along with his stated perception homosexuals, homosexuality should be outlawed, clogging court systems with persons trying to disprove their gayness so they can rent an apartment, get a job, see their long time doctor, let alone stay out of jail, prevent being rounded up because they are, thought a ‘fag.’ Roy Moore’s allegations reeking of rank hypocrisy and casting in new light judicial decisions he’s made while on the bench; once decreeing during a lesbian woman’s child custody case she couldn’t see her child unsupervised or with her partner based on the harm homosexuality does to children. Never pondering also the psychological impact of barring a child from their mother, already processing the stress of a divorce, because of their romantic relationship, no evidence she’d done anything irresponsible in her parenting, was abusive, neglectful, exposed them to someone inappropriate, allowed the child to see them having sex, taken the child to rendezvous to have sex; just that she was getting a divorce, identified as a lesbian and judge Moore didn’t like that. Decided another jaw dropping case where he ruled in favor of a daycare worker who raped a 12 year old because he said there was no ‘implied threat of physical injury;’ not that anyone has ever heard his definition, reasoning being the standard to prove or disprove rape. The standard is did person X, the defendant brought up on charges, standing in the courtroom force the identified victim to have sex with them, attempt to force them to have sex with them, perform sex acts on them involving their mouth, objects, fingers making contact with genitals exc. Here standard being statutory since the child’s 12, and even if she ‘seemed to be/behaved in a willing manner,’ has no legal capacity to consent; meaning having sex with a 12 year old is against the law, and if you prove that indeed did happen to the level accepted in a court of law, you’re guilty to be sentenced accordingly period. Further any pediatrician, let alone someone with half a brain, would disagree rape most certainly can and will cause harm to a child’s physical body just by the size difference of anatomy; size playing a role too in whether there is an implied physical threat when the person abusing you, in this case raping you, is 2, 3 or more times bigger than you in terms of actual stature, build debunking the argument behind his legal finding. In a subsequent daycare case were a presumably male worker raped a 4 year old Moore said “sodomy is an abhorrent crime and should be strictly punished” but argued the evidence did not support a lower court’s finding that Higdon had assaulted a child using “forcible compulsion.” What do you mean forcible compulsion, remember the child is 4 and again is physically incapable of fighting back by the sheer stature of their abuser; considering his toddler age coercion is probably all he had to use until the boy was too trapped to get away, but under no circumstance is sex with a child potentially still in diapers acceptable, even thought about by someone who is not seriously mentally perverted. To say nothing of the psychological impact rape, whatever the specific/horrific details, has on a fully grown adult forget a child, unfathomable for one pre-school age still learning to form words, speak in complete, more complex sentences; and you’re ok voting for this guy Alabama? Senate candidate Roy Moore who challenged his state’s rape shield law meant to protect victims of sexual violence, positing in his dissenting opinion offenders should be allowed to use parts of a victim’s past as evidence in their defense; as if bringing your rapist to justice wasn’t difficult enough emotionally, psychologically, system often seen as victimizing the victim multiple times over by the time a verdict is rendered. Nor was his opinion a rare one attached to individual cases where the victim had a history of false accusations, psychosis related mental health problems or other extenuating, mitigating circumstances where not lifting it in the prescribed instance would hinder the defendants’ opportunity for an adequate defense; The Guardian uncovered during his last 3 year stretch as Alabama’s chief justice of their state supreme court he cited similar thinking on 13 of 16 cases having to do with sex crimes, downright creepy all around when mulling over the accusations leveled against him. Frightening foreshadowing it play there was his opinion on a case scarily parallel to his own interactions with young women, saying of a school police officer accused of having sex with a 17 year old student: “although I do not condone the behavior” of Bonds, the courts should consider the notion that Bonds was not technically an employee of the school, and therefore may have been wrongly prosecuted.” Rather than recognizing even though the age of consent remains 16, the unequal power dynamic and given authority makes it inappropriate enough to prosecute in a court of law. But what we must look out for is the gays, lesbians, sodomites, Alabamians need to seriously ask themselves the same question Charles Krauthammer asked last year in the midst of the bathroom bill dust ups, do we have an epidemic of transgenders being evil in bathrooms; relating it to Moore and the vote taking place in a little less than 2 weeks, do we have an epidemic of LGBT rapists anywhere, LGBT predators preying on children, sodomy negatively impacting anyone besides the people willingly engaging in it, key word being willingly? Or, is it what has been pointed out for years A-we have more arguably sexually repressed, supposedly straight republicans doing creepy things in bathrooms? B- the biggest problem we have on the LGBT front is harm to members of this community visited upon them from the so called ‘normal’ rest of the town, city, state, region, nation, globe; ‘normal people convinced by their religious dogma LGBT is an abomination, unnatural, even contagious ‘normal’ people who replaced lube containers with acid in an Australian gay club, a Georgia man who poured scalding hot water on his girlfriend’s son and his boyfriend leaving them with 3rd degree burns, horrendous pain, endless surgeries and lifelong scars, their only sin that night, sleeping in bed after a hard day’s work. The tragic fates of Mathew Sheppard and Brandon Tina the most horrifying bookends to numerous accounts sexual bullying, sexual humiliations, occurrences of rape, sodomy, sexual assault, brought down on LGBT persons by characterized ‘good Christian’ boys and girls, teens and adults thinking because they’re gay they’ll like it, because they are gay they deserve the pain and torment forced sex brings, believing they can turn them straight make them realize they are indeed the gender they were born anatomically by having sex with them. C- clever predators using sickening methods to rid their prey of their gayness to hide their own sexually deviant tendencies and have unfettered access to a wealth of victims; like the teacher, at a Christian school, who spent weekly appointments raping one young man him, in every way possible, because he was gay, wanted him to hate men, so he would change. Which is realistically the greater threat to society/people’s feeling of personal safety, LGBT persons who like the same gendered person, both genders, not about sex at all feel they were born in the wrong body, all wanting to just be who they are, go about their business, same sex couples who want to marry like their heterosexual counterparts, to borrow a phrase from his vocabulary ‘live right;’ or, sexual harassment that effects both genders and can happen regardless your sexual orientation, gender identity? Usually perpetrated by straight, predominantly white men who feel entitled to comment, evaluate and indiscriminately touch women’s bodies whenever they feel like it, sexually or not; Tennessee so focused on their bathroom bill, regulating LGBT people they ignored their own sexual harassing straight, male predator in their midst until he had potentially assaulted, in some way, 34 women. How about the country board member caught p*sy grabbing shortly after the election of Donald Trump who thought the election of the president meant he didn’t have to be bothered by fussy political correctness; ignoring since when was it under the term political correctness to keep your hands to yourself, expressly off a woman’s behind, genitals or breasts, your tongue out of her mouth, anywhere else you can think of unasked for/uninvited, that’s common decency, a crash course and how not to get arrested for assault, novel thought…. Contrast what usually happens to pedophiles in Alabama to what hasn’t happen with Roy Moore for 40 years; a man, regular average Joe citizen, was convicted of “Using a Computer to Attempt to Persuade, Induce and Entice a Child to Engage in Sexual Activity” and spent 5 years in jail independent never having met the 14 year old because she did not exist and it was a sting operation by law enforcement to catch predators such as himself, upon release placed on the sex offender registry listing his home address make model and license plate of his car, identifying scars. Comparing like powerful people look at what’s taken place with Harvey Weinstein, Kevin Spacy, Mark Halperin, Charlie Rose, Roger Ailes, Bill O’Riley and Eric Bolling before them, all fired from their professions, persona non grata in the professional circles they used to inhabit, awards, honorary doctorates, professional society memberships retracted, rescinded and revoked; Mr. Moore on track to go to the United States senate instead, what’s wrong with this picture? In the sobering words of victim Tina Johnson “quit being willingly ignorant…Read More

Back To School Means Back To Shenanigans The Political Correctness Clint Eastwood Should Have Been Worried About

Current Trends by Natasha Sapp

Instead it’s the standard go to these days clothes, school dress codes and general polices on everything under the sun putting small area, key city schools on our national radar, garnering national attention for becoming more fascist and Nazi-like every year to some; to older, more traditional minds rolling their eyes bemoaning they had to add yet one more item to a banned clothing list, school administrators had to hammer out yet another policy on issue X because parents can’t employ common sense, if it’s not written down as a firm no, parents think anything goes. School in all facets fast becoming a topic tradition of mine, every graduation season inspires vivid commentary on anything but inspirational speeches to combat further coddling, cloistering of young people about to be smacked by the real world where you don’t get a trophy for everything, you don’t get points for just showing up. Alongside graduation nightmares spawned from clothing that shouldn’t be objectionable suddenly being put on a no, no list, parents showing up in the exact same attire as clever, justifiable revenge; dress code parameters for select, specific occasions that might as well have been written by their parent’s grandmothers mentioning sausage rolls to describe body fat, telling young women to keep the girls covered and you can’t put 10 pounds of mud in a 5 pound sack purportedly trying to speak their language to convey what is appropriate and what’s not. All because they feared stage placement would have people looking up girls’ short skirts, but the self-described ‘impressionable’ girl (18 and now an adult) speaking up is over sensitive and completely unprepared for real life; while her school, who should be leading by example, shows no class and gets away with it. Eagle feathers and other cultural, religious symbols banned from graduation tassels, gowns of individual students, one school barring their valedictorian from speaking due to his goatee facial hair; ironic we want boys to grow up to be men, men to act like men and emasculate them at the same time. Graduation ceremonies marred by racial slurs, overtones, one school outing their valedictorian to his father when he dared include that in the last seconds of his speech he was then banned from giving because it mentions him being gay. Speaking of parents, coveted parent involvement, a school superintendent who threated to have arrested excited parents cheering their child walking across that stage; desired charge: disturbing the peace. Others locked out of an overfilled auditorium due to ticket mix-ups; a 5th grader in a wheelchair forgotten at her elementary school graduation, no handicap accessibility provided, even leaving her name off the list of graduates. Likewise I have joined a chorus of fed up Americans, parents and non-parents equally, tired of schools shaming girls for simply buying their clothes off available racks at Target, Wal-Mart, K-Mart, JC Penny in appropriate size and age groupings, leaving it to parents to draft petitions about where is the fabric in girls’ clothing, clearly showing how much there is to boy’s clothes. Never adding their voices to said petitions just chastising parents for letting their child wear ‘booty’ shorts, more proper name daisy dukes, a bikini top to school (oh the horror in no air conditioning schools where you go outside to adjacent buildings for art, music confronted with hot, humid air)… news watchers remember the Utah school who edited yearbook photos without student/parent consent or notification based on moral compunctions of perv-y, white, religious minded men, blue haired old ladies and clique ridden year book staff despite a parent who took 2 students to orientation/registration and didn’t see any supposed sign announcing no sleeveless tops, visible bra straps, school reserved right to edit inappropriate pictures. Utterly stupid in summer where sun dresses, sleeveless shirts are worn for comfort in hot weather and bra straps, by the laws of physics, can be seen wearing a standard t-shirt, never mind U-neck popular women’s shirt styles (see screen shots) you can’t escape buying today. Reinforcing ideas, boys soon to be men, aren’t to control themselves, women are to cover up; girls, women are sex objects even in middle and high school, don’t want sex, propositions for sex, flirting, comment, cover up… So it’s no surprise dress codes made news again this year at the start of classes or that, as Yahoo’s article below states, dress codes right out of the 1950’s are popular with administrators and terms they use to define appropriate and inappropriate; latest round’s racial targeting found in banned hairstyles, items and ‘fashion trends’ lost on all of no one. Out, corn rolls (again you know persons writing this are out of touch when they don’t know it’s corn ROWS) twists, dreads, Mohawks, fro-hawks, ‘afros’ must be no longer than 2 inches, no jewelry to be worn in your hair, prompting one mother to call out their blatant racism, banning things unequivocally worn by mostly black students, eventually resulting in a slight change of policy eliminating statutes on aforementioned styles. Nor is it close to the first time said policies have come down on racial, ethnic minorities or become absolutely unenforceable….And then there’s the second Yahoo link complete with blow up screen shot below depicting posters informing Illinois middle school students of their dress code; Yahoo author commenting on their 1950’s language and attitudes. Lady-like and school appropriate on 2 headless women wearing nearly the same thing but the ‘revealing’ ‘distracting’ ‘dress code violation’ one was deemed so apparently because said girl chose to wear a see-through shirt over a thicker solid color one revealing nothing, or was it that her shirt wasn’t oversized enough to cover formfitting, ‘revealing’ parts of her leggings; you can’t tell truthfully. Beth Greenfield far from alone in her assessment decrying this throwback flyer and dress code, “Wow, Freeburg’s been invaded by Maoists,” noted one…while another posted the image of a flyer which read, in part, “I am a 15-year-old girl. If you are sexualizing me, YOU are the problem.” 15-year-old spot on, both Greenfield and cited psychologist questioning why; “all the women are drawn “with cleavage,” and “voluptuous,” when the flyer is meant to target middle-schoolers. “Even the way they depict women’s bodies is sexist.” Others penning sarcasm to make their point; “Who in their right mind would aspire to have schools as they were in the 1950’s? When the quality of education/teachers were better….students were held strictly accountable for their behavior……parents cared about how their children performed academically and behaviorally……….and reading, writing, and arithmetic took priority over social indoctrination, and political correctness…..classroom size didn’t matter, and teachers knew how to control their classes.” None of which has anything to do with the topic, over the top dress codes, and what is more 1950’s than parts left in the natural hair issue school’s dress code stipulating no 2 toned hair, males may not dye their hair and it must be no longer than their collar, bangs no lower than top of eyebrows. Butler school in Kentucky, check the calendar it’s 2016…. what we really want to know is where was Clint Eastwood talking about this, talking about educating a child’s mind is more important than what is or isn’t on their body?… where was he calling out old fuddy-duddies about dress codes in public schools; where was he calling out the ridiculousness of polo shirts and leggings on a sweet middle school girl getting them thrown out of class?… Dress codes should be: are they wearing clothes, then they can come to class; students looking to protest should merely come to school in their underwear, socks, shoes, bras for girls alerting these tightwads nationwide their attire will change when dress codes are amended to the above sentence period…. Pledge of allegiance back in the news this year too for variations on redundant, reoccurring ‘reasons’… Pulling us up to current fracas around our pledge, predictable Fox News showcasing a letter from one school sent home with students allowing them to opt out of the pledge and one corresponding parent’s asinine response, ‘this is the dumbest thing I’ve ever read and I’m so ashamed of this;’ panel going on to detail proclaimed ridiculousness of an opt out form despite their own references to a 1943 ruling by the United States Supreme Court saying firstly, the fixed star in our constitutional constellation was you could not force people to confess their faith in orthodoxy, policy, nationalism exc. Translation they possess 1- constitutional, confirmed by Supreme Court, choice to not stand, not recite the pledge, no official, independent rank, high, low can compel them to; further, there must be written notification of the opt out option finally signed by parent or guardian. So represented Florida school, recognizing turmoil about the pledge, probably at stated request of a parent, whole groups of them, followed Supreme Court guidelines in offering an alternative…. No panel members understanding how serious an issue it has become for students, less centered on bullying by their peers manifesting in prolonged, lasting injury and more dangerous bullying by adult, school authority they have little recourse to fight back against. When a teacher can demand you stand during the pledge or be suspended for 2 days, receive 2 more days suspension for every day you don’t stand, chiefly because you defied what she believed to be her authority, weren’t falling in line with whole class, whole school group-think, oblivious to how her actions looked compared to dictator countries Saudi Arabia and North Korea quoting the Secular Talk radio host describing what happened to a high school young man in Texas. When a school nurse can say to an 8th grade student you refused to stand during the pledge of allegiance, I refuse to service you; girl in tears, denied first aide, medication access, whatever she came to school nursing staff for, proceedingly barred from calling her parents before receiving a stern lecture. Which is not only a violation of the conditions of her employment failing to do her job, it constitutes a violation of medical ethics stating you treat the patient in front of you, going against probable portions of the Hippocratic oath. Saga exacerbated and elongated when a guidance counselor stepped in, they no better informed about basic constitutionality saying she didn’t have to say the pledge but should stand in the hallway until its completion. David Packman show clarifying she certainly does not have to/need to stand outside; delving deeper into that 1943 case and its ruling, not only can students not be compelled to say and stand during the pledge, there cannot be repercussions visited upon students who don’t, putting both school officials in the extreme wrong… Identical principles hold true about how we discuss certain issues, how we frame certain conversations by the words we use, actively don’t use, enact change to positively alter society’s use of words counter to social order, function, equality; why we stopped using the N word, negro, adopted native American over Indian. Call someone gay, lesbian, bisexual or transgender respectively as opposed to queer, fag, homo, transvestite, cross dresser, butch, carpet muncher, promote majoritively accurate sex education and proper names for body parts; encompassing reproductive organs, sexual activities. Why president Obama sought to remove the word retarded replaced with developmentally delayed from government documents; our evolving vernacular depicting what is socially acceptable to talk about, to say, how you say unpleasant, uncomfortable things, better address sensitive issues as much a part of the American fabric, American tradition as apple pie, baseball. Somewhat perplexing then why Fox News, surprise, surprise seems profoundly bewildered by that evolution reflected in a university’s notice to faculty advising them not to use words like crazy, psycho as it is offensive to people dealing with mental health issues, warnings not to out someone’s transgender identity, abstain from asking said persons about their ‘real name’ or surgical status and support students stated gender identities letting them know they should choose bathrooms corresponding with that identity…Largely gender identity related discussed parameters highlighted by both New Mexico university and Fox News streamed lined with the Supreme Court’s legalizing same sex marriage, countering exposed homophobia behind bathroom bills exploding this summer, that it was an end run around select North Carolina municipalities adding sexual orientation and gender identity to anti- discrimination statutes. Other states following their horrible bathroom bill example, Texas GOP members apoplectic calling it the end of public education when president Obama stepped in saying there will be federal guidelines allowing gender identity bathroom use to students in a place they are mandated to go 5 days a week to receive an education. Their lieutenant governor who can’t handle a tolerant, common sense set of “Transgender Student Guidelines,” fostering a “respectful and trusting” transgender student policy. Except to them, upholders of bathroom freak outs, Fox News, constant disparagers of this generation, our young people it’s representative of the extended coddling college culture of safe spaces, trigger warnings and political correctness gone wild; however, their mocking tone, laughing and segment title to mind your political P&Q’s indicates exactly why such parameters are needed. Forgotten, experts said the same things regarding mental illness in the final Sandy Hook report after Adam Lanza killed 26, most children, openly speaking about stigma surrounding these illnesses, opposed to cancer patients, diabetes sufferers, often preventing people from treatment, medication, causing people to fear both. Society’s use of words like psycho, crazy, cray, cray for persons who may be mentally ill; worse our too casual use of those same words not to indicate medical, mental health diagnoses merely describing those odd, unusual, unique or different, perception mental illness is as contagious as a cold, the flu, when it’s inherently not. Except, beyond safe space, trigger warning, free speech zones that are anything but, being transgender is about waking up one day and deciding your transgender, i.e. female instead of male, so you can use the woman’s bathroom and harass them, hit them up for sex, see partially naked women. Narrowly considered, were their theory correct, transgender males, biologically female could do the same harassing, making feel uncomfortable males hit on, propositioned for sex in Men’s rooms America wide; neither happening to date, if ever. Not about spending a lifetime feeling like you’re in the wrong body, enviously looking at girls wearing dresses, long hair, pretty outfits, feeling in your head, your heart that should be you too, feeling male, wanting to stand up using the bathroom confused as to why you have to sit, why your anatomy doesn’t match your mental image of yourself, terrified about gaining breasts, having a period. Instinctually knowing you don’t have a safe place to go to the bathroom because facilities matching your anatomy feel wrong, yet you’re nervous about those of your gender identity finding out you’re not like they are, harassment you’ve probably been subjected to trying to use either restroom….but telling New Mexico university students gender identity bathroom use is supported on campus is out of line, unnecessary, too much political correctness…. Just like an Arkansas Catholic school for boys, who teaches the importance of ‘soft failures’ posting a sign on their office door as follows: “If you are dropping off your son’s forgotten lunch, books, homework, equipment, etc., please TURN AROUND and exit the building,” the sign reads. “Your son will learn to problem-solve in your absence,” assumes student’s implied poor problem solving is directly resulting from helicopter parenting, helicopter parenting is the sole and singular reason parents bring items to their kids at school; during this day and age going viral. Ignoring, what, are you going to have school security escort out parents deciding it’s their child and they make the decisions not you, resort to calling police to gain compliance from parents with your new policy, how fast you won’t have a school if you go that route; you’ve forgotten parents who bring their child’s hockey, lacrosse, baseball gear to them after school for practice less because of their irresponsibility and more because you know if you do, it will remain in your child’s possession the entire time, less likely to be stolen, expensive equipment won’t be damaged, mandate replacement jostled repeatedly on the school bus (think hockey sticks). It’s what we say about driving all the time, it’s not you, you have to worry about but everyone else on the road; it’s not your kid you don’t trust, just everyone else maybe not raised with the same values you raised your son, especially if you’ve had problems with theft before, broken sports gear before. Their supposed to be cleverly worded sign assumes the child forgot, not you arranged to bring their science volcano, solar system model, history diorama to school so it wouldn’t be damaged on the school bus either; because after taking your hard earned money to buy the supplies, the multiple tries and several kitchen disasters to get the volcano to work properly, you’ll be damned if it gets destroyed before your child gets their hard earned grade… Obviously remarking on an era of ‘bad’ parenting, so called helicopter parents who want to swoop in and fix everything, never let their child fall or fail, protect them from everything brushes off other characteristic ‘bad’ parents, the flake who forgets everything themselves, assumes there’s that word again and what is it they say about making an ass of themselves, the parent showed up to correct, remedy their child’s mistake not their own…. Surely they have poorer students, families even attending probable tuition based catholic schools, parent working multiple jobs, where they told you they needed index cards for their research paper, would be given points for bringing, showing their teacher the index cards and you only had a chance to buy them, get them on your lunch break, just got paid and told your child you would drop them off before X hour class when required. And it’s not a soft failure for a child to flunk a class, the entire grade for the love of a paper left in their room I can bring them, left precisely because of it being such a huge portion of their grade, anxiety about how much is riding on that one thing, their little brother got ahold of their backpack not because it was left somewhere haphazardly but because they had to watch them while I worked late and do their homework at the same time, their sibling is 2 and doesn’t know any better; it too conveniently precludes identifying/helping students, families experiencing problems, needing help or needing you just to leave them alone, stop lumping them in with today’s cultural stereotypes. Backpack with important project left at grandmas because she’s ill, needs care, doesn’t qualify for a nursing home, we don’t want to put her in a nursing home, stumbling out of there at midnight when we got her to bed, us exhausted; Catholic school being an extension of the Catholic Church committed to representing god, helping others exc. that matters more. Precludes help reaching a child with noted memory issues, who may need to be seen by a neurologist, learning specialist even late diagnosed in high school, high school sometimes in smaller, parochial schools, select areas encompassing what would be middle school grades elsewhere; how well did that hard line work with famed Harry Potter character Neville Longbottom, hint it didn’t. Except similar to the discarded dunce caps, we know better than a fictional wizard school stuck in the 1960’s; at least we’re supposed to, capable of acting like it…. Stanford‘s ban on hard liquor follows typical collage policy mixed messages saying publicly they want more responsible adult students acting their ages as opposed to closer to their shoe sizes while simultaneously assuming the same fragility on both sides alleged discussing the New Mexico university parameters on offensive statements, smacking of mounting hypocrisy they want to change campus party culture, limit risky behavior, preludes to binge drinking by refusing to allow hard liquor, refusing to deal with something; knowing roughly 5 years ago college policies managing drunk students was to call their parents to deal with it… it’s better to ban hard alcohol. It’s better to ban hard liquors than it is to institute alcohol education realizing k-12 school ended at 18, drinking age is 21 and they’ll reach that on your campus, teach the difference between beer and Smirnoff Vodka…It’s better to ban hard alcohol than to teach student party goers of both genders, remembering rape isn’t limited to females, heterosexual encounters, party safety lest you be either victim or accused; beyond things like minding your drink for drugs persons might have slipped into it, not succumbing to pressures to drink more than your comfortable with, knowing your own personal alcohol limits, how alcohol affects you. Putting forth drinking till you pass out isn’t normal, acceptable, an ok part of party going, don’t drink until you pass out because it makes you more vulnerable to becoming a victim, makes you unable to remember the next morning what you did the night before, rendering you less able to recount what happened if you are a victim, participate in your own defense if you are the accused…Yet it’s better to ban hard liquor, wrongly presuming college kids don’t get drunk on beer, wine and wine coolers, mixed drinks made from wine or beer and soda, orange juice, playing drinking games, aforementioned beer pong, than it is to have and open honest conversations about what consent actually looks like, its legal definitions rather than the social gray areas these students, all of America have grown up with… Closely connected, having an open honest conversation about what rape really looks like that it’s more than jumping out of an alley and attacking a girl to quote later convicted Steubenville rapist Ma’lik Richmond, who followed up saying I didn’t do that…. 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